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Folks, a bit of style for the fat man pah-lease!

I was talking to someone this evening about men’s fashion and questions came up about what would I want if I could have anything. I wasn’t really sure to be honest but I came up with a few things that I could think of off the top of my head.

Give Natalie an idea and she’ll run with it. In a few minutes flat, she sent me a number of links to sites on men’s fashion. Let me be honest here – I am no fashionista. I’m a humble man simply trying to get through life being as fancy as he can be.

One of the links she sent me was to a Modus Couture blog post with a couple of pics of a hot, bearded man dressed up and ready to go!

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That man is stylin’. It’s a shame that I haven’t been able to find pictures of the whole collection to link to. Shame Corpus, shame. I’m kinda going off track here.

I thought to myself that perhaps I could look for similar clothing in larger sizes available in Australia. How hard would it be? Actually, pretty bloody hard.

This is the selection of trousers for one major online ‘big guy’ clothing store.

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Sorry what? That isn’t a selection. Jeans, a flexi waist trouser, denim trouser and a jean pant? Do you want me to look like I’ve stepped out of my Dad’s wardrobe again? It’s like you expect me to walk around in a pair of Stubbies and a Hawaiian shirt during the day, and then upgrade to ‘Jean Pant’ at night for some sophistication. Pah-lease.

Natalie found this other awesome look as well, from the Blackbird Blog. Smart musician dude carrying smart musician style bag with skinny tie, geeking it to the max glasses, and the jeans.

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At least I know where to get the jeans from.

This is all I want:

  • Clothes that fit me and fit me well
  • Good quality fabrics that last and wear well
  • Styles that make sense to me today, not me in twenty years time or twenty years ago
  • I want to be able to look fancy without having to spend a FORTUNE

Give this man some good clothes so I can look as good as I feel about myself!

Success – the man is fancy

I’ve been meaning to post this for a few days now. I saw a picture of myself from a Sunday afternoon trip to the park with some friends and thought “HEY! I CAN LOOK FANCY TOO!!!”

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It’s actually the first time in, well, ever that I’ve thought that about myself. I know that with my wedding photos (which you’ll see if you read back a couple of days to one of Natalie’s posts) I thought I looked pretty good. There was still this “but I’m fat!” in a sad way when I was seeing them for the first time.

Now, I feel like I can fat it up and look awesome in any situation. My wardrobe isn’t that extensive at the moment, but I can work on that. Mmmm, spending up big at Kingsize Big and Tall. What I would like is more variety and for fat man clothes to not cost an arm and a leg. Just an arm or a leg would be sufficient.

However I think I know who one of my icons of fancy is. Penn Jillette. I’m way shorter than Penn is though so the look wouldn’t work for me, but he comes out time and time again looking awesome even with a casual look.[img_assist|nid=87|title=Penn Jillette - fancy!|desc=|link=none|align=right|width=200|height=261]

I think part of it is just the metric butt load of confidence that this man exudes. In fact it is almost pouring out of his skin, his face, his clothes and the awesome goatee. He has a bit more hair though. Which moves me right into my next train of thought. Love a good segue.

I’m balding and I’m proud to be balding. I don’t want some advanced hair regrowth formula because I wouldn’t look like me any more. I haven’t had a full head of hair in years. So I’m starting to wonder whether what to do with it. Do I shave it all off again, and keep a beard? Can you be a bald shaven beard wearer and look fancy?

Don’t get me wrong. I think bald men are fancy. I do sometimes wish I had more hair, but only so I could grow into a silver fox when I get older. Could a silver beard with a bald head work? Perhaps I could just leave a small amount of hair to try and make sense of the beard. Or perhaps just a simple Penn Jillette style goatee.

Nah, I’ll stay with what I’ve got for now thanks. I’m pretty darn fancy as it is.



Style Evolution

I have always been interested in fashion, but it wasn’t until the past few years that my interest came through in the clothing I wear. I used to think that I was too fat, or too ugly to care about fashion. This changed when I became fat positive, and started hanging around with other fat positive friends. I was influenced by them, people on the internet and people on the street, and I wanted to let my style blossom. I started small, wearing more skirts and flashing my legs. I then built up to bright lipsticks, headwear and tights. It garnered more attention, which at first felt weird to me, and I wanted to hide. Now, if I’m being totally honest, I kinda love it. Oh yeah, vanity. Anyway, here is my evolution:

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I’m fat without the ph, but you can determine my acidity baby.

Tiara linked me to a post on Agent Lover wherein the heroine of the piece thought she’d slap the wrist of a fellow blogger who included her pictures in a “Fat Love Friday” post without permission. Mars from Chicken Dinner Candybar apologised and offered to remove the photos, but this offer was not taken up. I’ll blog about this since Marie from Agent Lover thought it was fair enough to bring into the public sphere, and because I have a few important issues to raise. Like my fist, as I shake it into the sky.

Sort your shit out privately.

It’s not “brave” to have a whinge about this when you’ve already dealt with the author of the “offending” post. What’s your intention? Publically shaming Chicken Dinner Candybar by directing your readership over there isn’t very mature. Your large readership could now very well have a negative bias towards the “offending” blogger and a strengthened bias against the notion of fatness. That shit is for Livejournal, dear Maude!

That isn’t the way to spread body acceptance.

I’m not sure body acceptance even registers as an issue for Agent Lover, because she admits that “fat” is a negative word. The fat-o-sphere has been around the internet for a few years, plus yannow, we’re fat so we’re super visible! As a blogger, Marie must have some powerful blinders on. The fat-o-sphere doesn’t just encompass fat people either – there’s a range of body types blogging about the topic and these authors self identify as “fat allies”, “inbetweenies”, “deathfatties” and other titles using fat with and without the ph.

Fat isn’t a pejorative to a lot of people.

“No matter how many times anyone tries to empower the word, the word fat ain’t going to be thought of as positive unless it’s spelled with a PH, ok?”

I guess I missed that memo. A lot of us did. The tricky thing about saying “never” is that one day you’re going to have to eat your hat. Chicken Dinner Candybar obviously considers fat to be a positive word, she blogs about it at least every Friday! The thing Marie forgot to take into consideration was context. If my pictures were posted all over a site that obviously talked disparagingly about fat, I would not only email them but spread my wrath throughout the bloggerverse. That’s not what happened here. While Marie has every right to be upset, she does not have the right to decree that other people can’t ever empower fatness.

Personally, I hate it when people use euphemisms for fat. Fluffy, BBW, curvaceous – they all make me cringe. I’m fat, I’m empowered and I’m doing pretty well, thanks very much!

You put your picture on the internet.

You have very little control over where it goes from there, or what people associate with your body. In this case it well-intentioned but poorly received. It could have been way worse. I post my photos on FUCKYEAHDEATHFATTIES and I’ve seen some very nasty comments as people reblog my photos. But you know what? I suck it up, because I know I’m fucking fancy!

You don’t just see a fat person’s style, you see their body too.

Don’t negate it, and don’t pretend it doesn’t exist. If style was the most visible thing about people, many of us would be walking down catwalks. The truth is that body shape is a HUGE FACTOR and denying that it’s a political battlefield is tantamount to plugging your head in the sand and showing everyone your pantaloons.

Whether one self identifies as fat or not, one does not have the right to declare unilaterally that fat is a negative word for absolutely every body. We’ve been conditioned to accept certain words (and indeed body types!) as positive or negative, and it’s really important to understand that human thoughts and prejudices aren’t set in stone. We can gradually accept a notion that challenges our conditioning by being open and asking questions and participating – not by digging into the ground, crying offense and refusing to grow.

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